Today’s song: Love me more- Sam Smith
This article is based on a few lessons that have helped me to understand, grow and nurture myself. I hope my fellow readers find them helpful.
Peace and Forgiveness
We must stop living in the past. It will only make us repeat the same circumstances and attract the same type of people. We have to forgive ourselves first and then others. We can not continue to live hating or with resentment towards other people.
"True forgiveness is when you can say,‘Thank you for that experience’" -Oprah
What is inside tends to be outside
Many times we try to change our outside without first adjusting our inside. It can be our feelings about ourselves or the circumstances around us. What we think or feel inside our minds tends to be reflected in the outside world around us. Everything is a reflection of ourselves, due to which it is vital not to react to circumstances without first asking ourselves what is not working inside of us that is making this happen.
Stop playing the victim
There is no living in pity for the past. Has victimization ever worked for anyone so far? No, most of the time it only leads to further self-pity. Therefore, we have to get out of this role and take responsibility for our actions. We may have made mistakes in past. However, during that time we might not have known how to do it in a better way. All experiences, negative or positive, give us a learning experience. A bad thing that may have happened to you can help to push yourself and transform your life.
Stop comparing to others
It is useless to compare ourselves with other people. We must understand that everyone is different and we are in this world to live and create our own experiences. We have to live our own lives and focus on ourselves. It is foolish to think that someone is better or worse than us because this is our life. What matters is us, not someone we don't know at all, and if we do know them, they don't contribute to us. Remember that you are your person. You don't have to compare yourself or listen to others comparing you to another person.
It is okay to feel down
It's a normal human thing to feel and suffer. There are circumstances external to us that we can not control. Hence, it is human to have bad days & not feel good. We don't have to pretend to be always in a good mood, but that does not mean we collapse at any difficulty. We can see the positive in every situation and be grateful even on the darkest days. We don't beat ourselves up for not feeling our best every day. It is normal and c'est la vie.
Your relationship status is your choice
Social norms nowadays make everyone feel like their relationship status is related to their worth in society. It doesn't help that this false narrative has been further pushed on by the media for decades. However, being single is a gift I am more than willing to receive and hold close to my heart. It is okay to be not in the dating world just because everyone around us is dating someone. Maybe it is okay to miss out while enjoying our moments of being single. It is okay to choose peace in solitude and find more about ourselves.
Be intuitive and protective of your wellness
Don’t go along with anything that feels wrong to you. Listen to your intuition. Without being aware, sometimes we override what our sixth sense tells us. It is just a matter of learning to listen to it. Be assertive, and avoid being afraid to remove someone from your life when they cross your boundaries repeatedly. Protect your mind from negativity.
Be kind to your mind.
I have a fun question for my fellow readers. Would you allow a garbage bag thrown into your living room? I am assuming most of you are thinking no. So, why do you put garbage in your brain? We do it when we feed negative thoughts, resentment, envy, hatred, bitterness, rage etc. We all are human and lovingly imperfect. Perfection is an illusion & nobody is perfect. Everyone has flaws & it is what makes people unique. Humans all come in different shapes, sizes, colours and ethnicities. Stop self-doubting.